On Marriages...
A great man once said - "You must never marry a female who looks beautiful and doesn't speak your language, for someday you'll be tongue-tied." FYI, this quote was made by me.
Lets get serious. The woman you marry should be someone with whom you can enjoy your life for whatever there is left between both of you. Right? I stated that in very simple terms. Now we should explore what 'enjoying' means, in terms of enjoying with your woman. (And women who read this article, read it by replacing 'men/man' with 'women/woman', although I won't guarantee that the article would work fine in your mind with the replacement at all times. I write this article talking as women as apart from me as I find it very inconvenient to write formal, corny lines like - "Every man/woman should consider his/her spouse as an alternative to a woman/man they really love.") Enjoying means not just having sex. But hold it hold it. I can read your thoughts. You are now asking - "How the hell can I have sex with a ugly female dude?" First of all, cut that "dude". I hate it. Now to answer your question with due consideration; you are right, you can't have sex with a female whom your mind perceives as "ugly". I wouldn't. You always have a choice of seeking beautiful women. My point as I stated in that quote of mine (*pride*), is that if you saw some female of some other origin and if she didn't speak your language, and if you aren't comfortable with her language, then chuck it man, for you can't live life peacefully. To people who talk theory like "If you are really in love with her you'll understand her well", I have two words for you - You're wrong!
Be practical. If you are asking her to put filter coffee and for some reason you expect her to "*aathify" the coffee and give it you or lets say your guests, you had it. You have to explain her the thing practically. Then next time you tell her, she will be turn blank. Maybe eventually she'll get what you say after repeating over and over again. But I bet you, you can never be comfortable as in when you tell a tamil girl - "Coffee aathi kudu deee!" (If you're Polish probably you might have a word for "aatharthu" like "gyryzpodst").
What I mean to say is you might have certain expressions in your own language which you'll be comfortable using at times in life (like saying "Yen di mundom..unakku evvalo sonnalum buththi varaaatha" in tamil), but if you'll have to translate it to some othe language which you can speak but are not pretty comfortable with, like say, hindi, thne you have major problem. Your wife will make her face like a bitch, and ask "kya?". Then lets say you start translating it for her. "Main sirf yeh bol rahaa tha ki 'kyon tujhe yeh karne mein ithna...ithnaa...shitt yaar..ussse kya kehthe hein...woh ...samajna mushkil hai , aur kuch nahi". So your intent was lost in translation in there. You wanted to shout at her telling her what a dumbass she is and not make her respond. But you'd have failed in your purpose by now. Your wife would have thrown up by now, and would have been the master of the situation by turning into a total bitch.
Ok thats it. Thats my point.
*I can't explain it.
Lets get serious. The woman you marry should be someone with whom you can enjoy your life for whatever there is left between both of you. Right? I stated that in very simple terms. Now we should explore what 'enjoying' means, in terms of enjoying with your woman. (And women who read this article, read it by replacing 'men/man' with 'women/woman', although I won't guarantee that the article would work fine in your mind with the replacement at all times. I write this article talking as women as apart from me as I find it very inconvenient to write formal, corny lines like - "Every man/woman should consider his/her spouse as an alternative to a woman/man they really love.") Enjoying means not just having sex. But hold it hold it. I can read your thoughts. You are now asking - "How the hell can I have sex with a ugly female dude?" First of all, cut that "dude". I hate it. Now to answer your question with due consideration; you are right, you can't have sex with a female whom your mind perceives as "ugly". I wouldn't. You always have a choice of seeking beautiful women. My point as I stated in that quote of mine (*pride*), is that if you saw some female of some other origin and if she didn't speak your language, and if you aren't comfortable with her language, then chuck it man, for you can't live life peacefully. To people who talk theory like "If you are really in love with her you'll understand her well", I have two words for you - You're wrong!
Be practical. If you are asking her to put filter coffee and for some reason you expect her to "*aathify" the coffee and give it you or lets say your guests, you had it. You have to explain her the thing practically. Then next time you tell her, she will be turn blank. Maybe eventually she'll get what you say after repeating over and over again. But I bet you, you can never be comfortable as in when you tell a tamil girl - "Coffee aathi kudu deee!" (If you're Polish probably you might have a word for "aatharthu" like "gyryzpodst").
What I mean to say is you might have certain expressions in your own language which you'll be comfortable using at times in life (like saying "Yen di mundom..unakku evvalo sonnalum buththi varaaatha" in tamil), but if you'll have to translate it to some othe language which you can speak but are not pretty comfortable with, like say, hindi, thne you have major problem. Your wife will make her face like a bitch, and ask "kya?". Then lets say you start translating it for her. "Main sirf yeh bol rahaa tha ki 'kyon tujhe yeh karne mein ithna...ithnaa...shitt yaar..ussse kya kehthe hein...woh ...samajna mushkil hai , aur kuch nahi". So your intent was lost in translation in there. You wanted to shout at her telling her what a dumbass she is and not make her respond. But you'd have failed in your purpose by now. Your wife would have thrown up by now, and would have been the master of the situation by turning into a total bitch.
Ok thats it. Thats my point.
*I can't explain it.
posted by Arun at
11:23 PM
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